July 20, 2020

33 Arthur Gillis: learnings from a blended family by a seasoned entrepreneur dad & grandad

33 Arthur Gillis: learnings from a blended family by a seasoned entrepreneur dad & grandad

“As fathers we sometimes have to be benevolent dictators, even if our children are grown-ups, they are still children.” Arthur Gillis on DADicated.com.

Arthur Gillis is an insanely successful South African serial hotelier and proud dad of five (3 biological and 2 from his second marriage) and grandfather of three, soon four children.

In our session Arthur shares his journey of being a dad, a granddad and entrepreneur; His powerful experience shares include positive conflict, family forums and family counsel, not ruling from the grave, forging bonds with your kids, fathering the fatherlessness, why not to treat children equally, money and its energy in family and turning disadvantages into advantages.

As an entrepreneur and CEO Arthur grew the Protea Hotels Group from the initial four hotels to the leading hotel operating company in Africa consisting of 128 hotels in 19 countries with 16.000 employees. After 36 years, in 2014, Arthur facilitated the sale of Protea Hotels’ three brands and management company to Marriott International, Inc..

Arthur is a warm, beautiful father figure and truly worth a listen. If the session helps you, I am asking you to please share it with someone you love. Enjoy!

“As fathers we sometimes have to be benevolent dictators, even if our children are grown-ups, they are still children.” Arthur Gillis on DADicated.com.

Arthur Gillis is married and lives in South Africa. He is a titan in the hospitality industry, maybe the most successful in Africa. He is a serial hotelier and proud dad of five. Three of those kids are his biological children and two came with the second marriage. However Arthur and his wife took the line of treating all kids as their own kids. All five are married and Arthur is a grandfather of three, soon four children. 

The session is fun, uplifting and I found it very inspirational. Arthur speaks from the heart and his experience shares are powerful. Arthur is such a positive and motivational father figure and his own yearning for learning makes the session special. 

As entrepreneur and CEO Arthur grew the Protea Hotels Group from the initial four hotels to the leading hotel operating company in Africa consisting of 128 hotels in 19 countries with 16.000 employees. After 36 years, in 2014, Arthur facilitated the sale of Protea Hotels’ three brands and management company to Marriott International, Inc..

In our session Arthur shares his own journey of being a dad, a granddad, an entrepreneur and how he manages to blend the many family streams that make up his own family today. We talk about values, what he learned from his own father and other father figures throughout his lifetime and Arthur shares some amazing insights and very practical experience shares on building a successful family. 

Some of the shares are how conflict can be positive, his family forum and family counsel, how he will ensure not to rule from the grave, how to forge bonds with your children, fathering the fatherlessness, why one should treat children appropriately instead of equally, money and its energy in family, turning disadvantages into advantages and relationships over money.

To give you some more perspective on Arthur: he often attends funerals with people who have no contemporaries anymore. The learning he shares here: nobody ever, ever talks about how much money they’ve got. They talk about family or relationships. 

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

  • Listen more to other Dads who have walked this path before.
  • Be kinder to yourself.
  • If you have no choice at least make the experience beautiful.
  • In a blended family: never side with blood, ever.
  • Show your children your vulnerability. It’s a strength and not a weakness.
  • Find a project, like restoring a car or anything really, to do together with your boys to forge bonds.
  • Have a psychologist or independent third party on call to act as family counselor.
  • Quality time has to equate quantity time.
  • Beautiful routine for all parents: “What made you glad what made you sad? What do you want to do tomorrow and what do you want to do right now? This is your time, you chose.” 45 minutes exclusive one on one time with your child.

The regular listeners will know this. I am part of the initiative together for cape town where we aim to raise enough money for kids in Cape Town’s townships before the year is out. If you’d like to support our cause, please check out www.togetherforcapetown.com and donate or reach out. To all of you who have contacted us or donated, thank you for your support! You are amazing.

If this podcast helps you being a better parent, please consider leaving a review and share it with another parent or two. It’ll only take you a few minutes and I truly love getting feedback from you, in fact it makes my day. Thank you so much. Enjoy this session with Arthur Gillis! 

Books mentioned in this episode: 

  1. Life of Ludwig van Beethoven’s Biography.
  2. Raising Boys by Steve Bidulph
  3. The 8th Habit by Steven R. Covey 
  4. Good to Great by James Collins 

Arthur Gillis:

  1. Platinum Hospitality Holdings
  2. Arthur’s LinkedIn

Philipp Hartmann (host):

  1. Philipp Hartmann
  2. Philipp Hartmann's LinkedIn

“Being Dad” on DADicated.com:

  1. Podcast Website
  2. Instagram & facebook