Nov. 24, 2019

#7 John Gray of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"

#7 John Gray of

My next dad is John Gray. You probably know him as the author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. The book was a long-time bestseller in the 90s, he’s sold millions of his books.

John is an interesting dad and our session was different and thought-provoking. John dives deep into his work of the last few decades and translates his thoughts on the differences between men and women to dads and moms. We cover his standpoints on relationships, hormones, psychology, the difference between men and women and how we deal with stresses, diet and what dads and moms can teach their children when they are balanced in their own powerful energies as men and women.

The session is honest and straightforward, which I like a lot. Some of the things John says or rather how he says them would be unpopular or politically incorrect - and that’s exactly why I found the conversation so interesting! If we launch into stuff you find difficult, I urge you to look beyond that and listen for your own value.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad were:

  1. Violence comes from anger and fear and happens when you don't have role models who solve problems.
  2. Be a strong outside presence for your children and teach them that just because something difficult happened once, it doesn’t necessarily have to happen over and over again.
  3. Teach your daughters how they can trust in other people and be interdependent by making sure they can trust in you.
  4. How you treat your partner will translate to your own children.
  5. Fathers can provide resilience.
  6. Kids need to hear: you did your best and your best is good enough!

Links for further reading and information:

John Gray (guest):

  1. John Gray on Wikipedia
  2. John's website 

Philipp Hartmann (host)

  1. Philipp Hartmann
  2. Philipp Hartmann on LinkedIn

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John Gray

John Gray is the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. USA Today listed his book as one of the top 10 most influential books of the last quarter-century. In hardcover, it was the #1 bestselling book of the 1990s. Dr. Gray’s books are translated into approximately 45 languages in more than 100 countries and continues to be a bestseller.

Dr. Gray has written over 20 books. His most recent book is Beyond Mars and Venus. His Mars/Venus book series has forever changed the way men and women view their relationships.

John helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships. His approach combines specific communication techniques with healthy, nutritional choices that create the brain and body chemistry for lasting health, happiness and romance.

His many books, blogs and free online workshops at provide practical insights to improve relationships at all stages of life and love. An advocate of health and optimal brain function, he also provides natural solutions for overcoming depression, anxiety and stress to support increased energy, libido, hormonal balance and better sleep.

He has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, as well as on The Dr. Oz Show, TODAY, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, and others. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today, and People. He was also the subject of a three-hour special hosted by Barbara Walters.

John Gray lives in Northern California with his wife, Bonnie. They have been happily married for over 30 years and have three grown daughters and four grandchildren. He is an avid follower of his own health and relationship advice.