Aug. 10, 2020

35 Rich Mulholland on becoming a dad after divorce, winning the stepmom-lottery and “Chicken Shapoodles” #dadcepies

35 Rich Mulholland on becoming a dad after divorce, winning the stepmom-lottery and “Chicken Shapoodles” #dadcepies

“How is the most important job the one we have the least information for?” Richard Mulholland on

Richard Mulholland, an amazing entrepreneur, storyteller, insanely creative and of course a very interesting Dad. I love Richard. He is funny, intriguing and smart and his will to self-optimise is astonishing. I truly enjoyed listening to Richard’s perspective on being a dad.

Richard is the founder of presentation powerhouse Missing Link, as well as the co-founder of 21Tanks, and The Sales Department. He has written three books; Legacide, Boredom Slayer, and Story Seller. He was voted top 40 under 40, and top 300 South Africans to take to lunch. Mostly though he's a husband, father, son, brother, and uncle. Richard has spoken in over 30 countries on six continents and works with executives and speakers around the world, helping them deliver unforgettable presentations that activate audiences and generate income.

Richard is 45, he is married to Jess and has two children from his first marriage. His son Callum who is 17 and his daughter Bailey who is 12. Second marriage now 8 years.

In the session Richard shares his own journey and how ultimately his divorce helped him to become an involved and passionate dad, how he realised he needs to stop lying to himself and stop prioritising work over family. We discuss his time as a single dad and his family setting after he remarried. We talk about his own dad, the role of step-parents in the parenting eco-system, how we can help fathers owning being a dad and Richard’s life hacks and family systems.

The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:

  1. If you want the year to be successful remember this: a day becomes a week, a week becomes a month, a month becomes a year. Bingo.
  2. I will start a “to-do-better-list; the one thing you could have done better yesterday.
  3. Moving forward is not the same as moving toward.
  4. Becoming a better dad and husband must be an intentional pursuit.
  5. My children did not enter a family structure, they created it.
  6. "Kids don’t want more, they just want us more... in the house".


  1. Microtrends: The Small Forces Behind Tomorrow's Big Changes” by Mark J. Penn, E. Kinney Zalesne: 
  2. Acta Non Verba” by Erik Kruger
  3. A Calendar of Wisdom” by Leo Tolstoy
  4. The Boy Crisis” by Dr. Warren Farrel
  5. "Legacide" by Richard Mulholland
  6. "Boredom Slayer" by Richard Mulholland
  7. "Story Seller" by Richard Mulholland

Richard Mulholland (guest):

  1. All of Richard’s websites:

Philipp Hartmann (host): 

  1. Philipp Hartmann
  2. Philipp Hartmann on LinkedIn

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